It causes me pain to say this, as I love my country, but there are other nice places to visit in the world where they do not s t r i p-search people for riding a bicycle without a bell, or for not wearing seatbelts (two examples mentioned in the Supreme Court decision upholding this practice).
Don't let your desire to visit the US result in the mistreatment and humiliation of yourself, your wife, or your children.
If you are willing to risk this sort of incident however, we do have some nice places here in Florida:
This museum powerfully makes the point that "The Price of Freedom" is a hell of a lot more than eternal vigilance.
This is easily worth the 400 mile drive from SE Florida!
They have an interesting, but limited website. You have to see the museum to appreciate it.